Blogger in the Flesh...

I began blogging on my b-day in January and since then I've met some really kewl bloggers online...smart, intelligent, talented, good looking educated brothas---It's a pleasure for me to finally associate in distance with like minds of the same ilk with struggles and tribulations as depicted by their penned words...

How can something so right go so very wrong so very fast...that in hindsight clarity breeds understanding...you retrace the moment in your mind and if only you can turn back the clock...to correct whatever the heat of the moment was....back in February...a talented blogger made a comment on my blog...and I thanked the blogger for his comments and we ended up having two very long IM sessions in two days which ended abruptly (quite rude at the time I thought) by the blogger...I tried to contact the blogger... by phone, IM and email to ascertain their dismay or why they seemed at the time "put off"...but I guess that was not to be...it ended up in a non-reply...

Our last IM session went like this...

Me: That's a photo of my son...
Him: oh really
Him: wow
Him: i...i..am speechless
Me: Now you know more about me...than most people...
Him: well I appreciate it but now I feel like I was mislead
Him: so can I get a pic of you...the real you
Me: He's 6'1...
Me: No you were never mislead...
Him: so you tryna set him up?
Me: No...I not...
Me: We're dealing with honesty here...
Me: and I feel...if we're going to be friends...then we need to lay the cards on the table...
Me: I want you to know me...so there's no surprises...like...Oh..you neglected to tell this...or that...know what I mean
Me: Now...when it comes to me...I'm 40 years old...but I look so much younger than I really am...
Him: well how is that possible when I have no clue what you look like
Me: And people get caught up in that...
Me: You know what I look like...I look the same as photos...
Him: but thats not really you
Me: As a matter of fact...I've been told...my photos do me no justice...
Him: yeah but they are not your photos
Me: So whose photos are they...if not mine...
Me: Only one photo was not mine...my son..photo is the only photo that's not mine...
Him: you said the photo was of your son
Me: This photo is me....
Me: The next photo is me as well...
Me: This photo is me....
Him: i dont see any photos
Me: Can you see the photos at the right hand side of your screen in the box...
Him: no
Me: How come you can not see them now...
Me: You saw them yesterday...
Him: ??? have no clue
Me: I'll send it to you by email...which email you want me to use...
Him: aol
Me: Oh...the aol...kewl...I will send you photos of me...and then one of my son...
Me: So that you can see how much we look alike...
Me: Why would I want to mislead someone as nice as you...and to whom I have a liking...it doesn't make sense...
Him: well when are you sending them?
Me: hold on...don't be impatient...
Me: I've sent them....you have a look and then you decide..
Him: ok
Me: Did you receive them?
Him: one sec
Him: yes I have them
Him: hello
Me: I'm here
Him: you quiet now
Me: I'm waiting on you...you wanted to see photos...you have now have the photos ...you now can make a comparison between my son and I
Him: i still think you sexy even more now
Me: I’m slightly offended that you would think that I would be frivilous
Me: and I would be deceitful about who I am
Him: thats not what I said
Me: What have I to gain from lying to you...in the end...all of this would have been for nothing...
Him: i was tryna get to the bottom of what you were tryna say cause it looked like you were saying that the pics were not of you at all
Me: Firstly...I would never post another man's photo as myself...my self esteem is in tack...that's one of the reason...I rarely post a photo...
Him: its not that serious D
Me: I'm not stuck on looks...I'm stuck on a man's ability to stimulate a mind...because in the end that's all we have...
Him: I was confused on what you were saying
Him: nvermind we going down a bad path right now
Me: I'm not ranting at you...and I'm not mad...either
Him: so lets get off of it
Him: I have to go so I will holla lata

Funny thing though...your fate is your destiny and at some point everything comes full circle...about two weeks ago I was in Bulldogs...I met up with the guys for drinks and bid whist...
as we usually do...later in the evening...a cute brother stepped to me...saying he knew me from somewhere...my face looks very familiar...in about two minutes we had it figured out...It was rare for me to meet a blogger... he's the first blogger I've ever met since blogger...that was so kewl in that moment...he was in the ATL for his project...the funny thing though is...he said I look just like my photo....hmmmm....and the recollection of our interaction came flooding back!

Now...given that I'm a kewl forgiving person...I had a real great conversation with the brotha...considering that from his past actions or lets just say non actions ... talking to me for him would be a non issue as that was made clear back in February by not responding to any of my attempts...

Enough said ... I was disappointed back then... but hopefully our interaction at Bulldogs jogged his memory... that one should never be to quick to burn bridges especially when generalizations are dangerous...

QUOTE OF THE DAY
“All generalizations are dangerous, even this one.” - Alexandre Dumas